Carlota Santos Movilla | Student Writer
With the 14th of February quickly approaching, maybe we should think twice about it this year. About why we hate it, why we love it or perhaps, why we love to hate it. It would be a lie to say that the meaning has not been brutally commercialised and that businesses have not squeezed every drop of insecurity within us to convince us that chocolates and flowers is mediocre and too simple.
The truth is, Valentine’s day is not a genuine holiday – if you can call it one. But what holiday is truly sincere all over the world? Christmas? With family arguments and socks as disheartening presents? It is truly ironic that so many more people love Christmas since they are both cruelly materialised times of the year.
So what we should do is join those who swear against anything slightly romantic, right? Those who absolutely love despising Valentine’s Day are contributing just as much as the rest by giving it so much importance. Heartbreak will get the best of you if you let it and by complaining about couples buying each other gifts, you are only becoming more and more bitter.
Some cultures also see it as a day to appreciate one’s friends or even family which is a much more refreshing, openminded and positive perspective on the day.
“Every day should be Valentine’s Day” is often said in an attempt to criticise people’s loving gestures because it is simply a date and it plays down on spontaneity. It does, for sure. However, not every day should be Valentine’s Day just like every day should not be your birthday: the special and unique quality of it disappears once it becomes normal. It is really not harmful to have a day to show who you love what they mean to you through actions or gifts instead of words – which can result less impressive as time passes, especially.
The pressure created around it is definitely tangible as couples struggle to decipher if “not getting each other gifts” is actually ever true. Probably not. Some advice is to talk about what each person thinks of the day to not have any problems leaving anyone disappointed. The infamous avalanche of cards full of hearts and kisses, chocolates, red roses or anything even remotely romantic is certainly a tactic to take advantage of some anxious thoughts people can have about not being good enough or being a “worse” partner if anything they plan is not as impressive as expected.
So, if you do want to celebrate it, why not simply think of what this person has brought into your life that you are grateful for? This day has as much importance as you give it.
Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone.